I like the boca chick'n patties (and burgers, the vegan ones are less "burger-y" than the flame grilled, however).... I use the chick'n on top of salad a lot. I also cube them and then cook them with veggies and melt some cheese on them onto flat bread. Most delicious thing IN THE WORLD, I tell you. Boca burgers make a good "meat sauce", too, though if I'm looking for something in my pasta sauce other than veggies, it's usually tofu. But you probably won't find a meat substitute that you won't know it's not meat.... because they aren't meat :] I guess just find alternatives, like chick'n or falafel (also delicious, though definitely not made to imitate meat.)

As for veggies, have you tried baking things like green beans and asparagus rather than steaming them? I HATE squishy asparagus, but if I cook it in the oven with some olive oil and garlic it's so, so good.