Oh, it's just irritation, not anger :) (Badly worded surveys and "memes" on LJ irritate me the same way.)
In my experience, online relationships -do- tend to lack the same kind of depth you get in a relationship that has a face-to-face component. But I think a lot of that depends on the ability of the people involved to communicate well via text, and, in my experience, people with different text-based communication styles can get on each other's nerves in ways that normal communication mismatches tend not to. Or maybe that's just me.
Re:prioritizing online/phone vs. face-to-face - I think it depends on the circumstances. If I'm on the phone w/my parents, the SO had better have a GOOD reason to try and interrupt me. If I'm in the checkout line, though, the person at the register gets priority over the phone OR anyone I'm going through the line with, but I can see why other people don't feel they need to do that; it isn't like you need to really engage the cashier in deep - or even any - conversation.
It sounds like the MMOwhatevers are the same sort of thing that any extracurricular activity is: some get that you have other things in life that are more important than that activity, and others get bent out of shape if THAT activity is not your number 1.
Are you and T$ talking to each other while engaging in those activities, or are you just having some alone time while in the same space? I don't think that the latter is "ignoring" each other, unless one of you IS trying to socialize while doing that, and the other is just responding with grunts of disinterest (sometimes I wish the SO would share LESS of his email/web browsing when we are internetting in the same room, and sometimes I wish he were more in the "let's share what we're reading" mood).
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Re: I am going to rant
Date: 2009-07-15 11:12 am (UTC)In my experience, online relationships -do- tend to lack the same kind of depth you get in a relationship that has a face-to-face component. But I think a lot of that depends on the ability of the people involved to communicate well via text, and, in my experience, people with different text-based communication styles can get on each other's nerves in ways that normal communication mismatches tend not to. Or maybe that's just me.
Re:prioritizing online/phone vs. face-to-face - I think it depends on the circumstances. If I'm on the phone w/my parents, the SO had better have a GOOD reason to try and interrupt me. If I'm in the checkout line, though, the person at the register gets priority over the phone OR anyone I'm going through the line with, but I can see why other people don't feel they need to do that; it isn't like you need to really engage the cashier in deep - or even any - conversation.
It sounds like the MMOwhatevers are the same sort of thing that any extracurricular activity is: some get that you have other things in life that are more important than that activity, and others get bent out of shape if THAT activity is not your number 1.
Are you and T$ talking to each other while engaging in those activities, or are you just having some alone time while in the same space? I don't think that the latter is "ignoring" each other, unless one of you IS trying to socialize while doing that, and the other is just responding with grunts of disinterest (sometimes I wish the SO would share LESS of his email/web browsing when we are internetting in the same room, and sometimes I wish he were more in the "let's share what we're reading" mood).